What is Relational Trauma?

Some clients describe this feeling as an internal rage, constant feeling of being on “edge” especially surrounding relationships with others and your internal/emotional experience. You may struggle feeling in control of your emotions, doubting whether or not it’s “ok” to feel an emotion.

Low self worth, feeling that you don’t know “who you are” and generalized struggles with self concept; especially if you notice this is mostly felt in friendships, relationships with others. Some client’s feel “flippant” about self.

If you feel like you run on a constant “see - saw” between guilt, shame, and self doubt of your feelings, decisions, identity, how you operate in relationships or friendships. This might be you. You may be very self critical, empathetic towards everyone but yourself. Your internal dialogue is probably not very kind or forgiving.

Those that are healing or struggling with relational trauma often find it hard to trust their feelings, reactions, and communication style in relationships. Feeling that it is hard to “self advocate” may fall into a people-pleaser role without necessarily wanting to.